Archive for May, 2009

Real Humility

There is an impression in our culture that humility means self-hatred, or avoiding praise when one deserves it but leaping at the chance to take punishment. And I’ve seen a number of people chase desperately after this behavior so that they can be what they call humble, but this is not humility.

Real humility does not say that you are less than others, that is self-deprecation and it is a destructive behavior. When you are humble it does not mean to assume that you will fail. That creates self-fulfilling prophecies.

Real humility does not seek to distort your personal image negatively nor positively. Real humility says things like “I am human, I am going to make mistakes, and thats ok.”, “I can learn something from everyone”, “I am not higher than any person, nor are they higher than me” or like the attitude of the most serene elders I know “I am young and dumb till the day I die”.

That is humility, not self-destruction, not the “I can’t”s but the acknowledgment that you are still learning and mistakes are part of that process. It is not the casting down of yourself, but of not putting others below you; thus raising them with you. So don’t let the voice of self-deprecation and doubt pose as a virtue. Humility is good, just make sure that its real humility and not self-doubt in disguise.

Add comment May 30, 2009

Read the Controversies

When I was in third grade I started homeschooling. Once I caught up on the gap between public and home school standards I started having a lot of free time. This is when my mom started buying me books like “The Call of the Wild”, “Last of the Mohicans”, “Greek Mythology”, and other classics. I still to this day can not tell you how much good this has done for me.

Because of free time and curiosity made more available by my being home schooled at the time I learned to love reading books that were held in high esteem. This later extended to a curiosity on any and all censored books, starting with Orwell.

I have gotten more value out of these than I am able to tell you, and I haven’t even scratched the surface of the real classics. It has stretched my mind every time that I have pushed myself to understand these difficult reads. It has made my mind faster, and my wit sharper.

And the more taboo a book, the more I’ve gotten out of it. Karl Marx for example… I do not agree with the man. He presented some real problems, but none of his suggestions addressed the problems he brought up. He masked this by hiding behind his impressive vocabulary. Unfortunately his vocabulary seemed to be more to hide the weaknesses of his arguments than to clarify his purpose with the most accurate words. Because I pushed myself to read that I now know what really is and isn’t Marxist. I learned what we were supposed to be fighting.

But by censoring the reading of Marx due to fears of people converting to his way of thinking we began paving the way to put all ten planks of Marx’s Communist Manifesto in place, and if you haven’t read the book, its difficult to know this.

Rather than trying to hide an idea that you find false or even evil, show it in full, and expose it. After all, if your idea is really the better one, than let all information be seen, and let people come to their own conclusions. Truth will win out in the end.

Add comment May 30, 2009

Refusal of the Call

When I first got out of high school in 2005 I was offered the opportunity to go rebuild roofs in New Orleans. I had everything lined up, and then at the last moment. I got cold feet. My little sister (who was 12 at the time) told me she didn’t want her big brother to go, and so I didn’t.

That chance would have funded a vehicle for me and gotten me in school. I opted to not take risk, and I regret it. Instead I started at a book store, and while I enjoyed that greatly it closed doors on opportunities which in hindsight, would have been much more valuable.

This time I have no intention of letting my insecurities get in the way of me finding out first hand what I can do. It took me four years, but I’m learning that risks must be taken in order to grow properly.

Add comment May 28, 2009

A Call To Adventure

I always felt like I should take some kind of warriors quest to become a man. A rite of passage, something all to often neglected in our modern world. Now I am going on one.

I am leaving behind almost everything I know to go make a new life for myself. While I know where I am going, I am not completely sure how getting there is going to work out. Nor how everything is going to work once I get there. This is not usual for me given that I like to plan ahead, but this time, I can only get so much information, and some things I’m just going to have to learn on the way by doing.

I have spent the last two years reading about how money, business, and life in general works. I’ve studied literature, constitutional law, religions, alternative thought, propaganda, and careers. Now I want to find out if any of that is going to be useful or not.

I’ve always been intelligent, but I have never really seemed to know how to use it, and that is something that I want to find out for myself, first hand, if I can do or not. And if I can’t do it than I want to learn how. I know I’m going to need some serious mentoring. For the time I am looking to my quotes for that, but I have a lot more to learn. And so I will be starting my own version of the monomythic quest.

Add comment May 27, 2009

Some of my favorite Quotes

Today is memorial day and I have a lot to do, so I’m just going to post some of my favorite quotes today. I have a huge quote archive that can be visited from the navigation bar on the side. Here are some samples of the ideas that help form my ideas.

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson (Self-Reliance and Other Essays)

“The key to every man is his thought. Sturdy and defying though he look, he has a helm which he obeys, which is the idea after which all his facts are classified. He can only be reformed by showing him a new idea which commands his own.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see.”
— Henry David Thoreau (Walden, or Life in the Woods)

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

“However mean your life is, meet it and live it.”
— Henry David Thoreau

“Everyone should carefully observe which way his heart draws him. And then choose that way with all his strength.”
— Hasidic saying

“Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”
— Andy Rooney

“Your conscience is the measure of the honesty of your selfishness.
Listen to it carefully.”
— Richard Bach (Illusions)

“You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true. You may have to work for it, however.”
- Richard Bach (Illusions)

“Be not afraid of growing slowly. Be afraid only of standing still.”
— Chinese Proverb

Thats it for now. I hope you enjoyed! Have a Happy Memorial Day!

1 comment May 25, 2009

There is No Magic Plan

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For a long time I was searching for that one niche degree, that could set me apart, and thus make my career. Every blog I read on the subject said go with your passions. I’m young and have a wide variety of interests. I don’t know how to narrow it down yet, and because of what I didn’t (and still don’t) know what to do; I stopped.

I wasn’t moving forward because I wanted to find “The Magic Plan”. Now there is a big market of people selling “Magic Plans” for everything from diet to careers. They’ve been selling magic solve all plans since man was first able to chisel symbols into stone. But none of these are magic plans, they are just plans; sold for profit (either monetary, fame, spiritual), and full of whatever biases the writer also believes in.

I am not saying that there is nothing valid in these plans. A good plan still has plenty of application, but not one of them is a magic plan that is going to fix everything for your life.

I was so terrified of choosing the wrong plan, that life ended up happening without me, and my personal goals were being left behind in the process. Recently though on a stressful day where I was caught a few miles from home on a bicycle in a thunder storm with errands to run some of the quotes I read started to sink in.

I had stopped moving forward because I had thought that if I chose the wrong plan that I would have to stay like that. I was acting like it would not be possible to change course. I was also believing that there was a degree that would make my career, and thus make it easier to provide for a family.

I was missing that the degree is not responsible for making my career. I am. No plan is responsible for how my life goes. I am. And it was such a release to realize that. I can go after things that I enjoy learning about, and whether a degree is “practical” or not the degree isn’t going to be what makes or breaks me anyways.

The things that will make or break me are SELF-KNOWLEDGE, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, ATTITUDE, INTEGRITY, HONOR, and PERSEVERANCE. Those things will be a much better brand to be known for than the guy with the Magic Degree, or the guy with the Magic Plan. There is no magic plan. Plans alone are just plans, it is only the individual that can take a plan, and make it magic. But even then magic is in the individual, and the possibility of that magic is in you and me.

Add comment May 24, 2009

A Tale of Two Tigers

There was once a tiger Bo who had lived his whole life in a zoo in africa. He was safe, well fed, and sometimes the trainers would even let him in to different areas. This kept him content. One day the zoo keepers brought in a new tiger named Zatch, but this tiger wasn’t like the other tigers. Zatch had come from a zoo called the wild.

Nothing that the zoo keepers did would make the new tiger happy. When it was feeding time he was upset about being fed. Zatch didn’t like his cage, and refused to say how nice of a home it was. Even the nice other cages that all the other tigers were happy to wait in while their home was cleaned did not please him.

One day Bo asked Zatch why he was always so upset when everything was handed to him. So Zatch looked back to Bo and told him that he would rather catch the meat himself, because it was what he was made to do. He told him, that he would rather find his own shelter because than he chose it himself, but the thing that got to him the most was the cage. Zatch remembered a whole jungle that was his home, and if he didn’t like it, he could move. He also remembered poachers, but he would rather face them alone than be somebody’s pet.

All of this confused Bo, he couldn’t understand why anybody would miss so much work and risk. Bo had never been outside of his cage, and from the sounds of things he didn’t want to. But Zatch on the other hand understood, that facing the dangers himself gave him a right to freedom. Zatch was accustom to the more dangerous world that comes with owning ones self.

Bo had known only a cage, and had no desire to learn another way of life. He would rather be owned than have to take care of himself. Zatch however knew that freedom, work, and risk were inseparable. Bo would never know freedom, and eventually Zatch would find his way out of the zoo, and back to his dangerous wild freedom.

Add comment May 23, 2009

Reason to Desire

For those of us living in a “modern society” with a “free trade market” advertisers have all of our lives used our basic human desires to manipulate us. They brand their products so that the products themselves will try to meet our basic phsychological needs. This practice, originally called propaganda, was first institutionalized by Edward Bernays. Bernays was Sigmeund Freud’s nephew who drew heavily on his uncle’s ideas about the human race being naturally driven by sex and violence, and decided to exploit these desires to cause mass amounts of people to chase after ideas, products, and even politicians. In the BBC documentary “Century of the Self” you can see a sharp contrast in how modern societies once advertised compared to now, where subtle techniques are used by every major corporation that touches our lives in order that we will become reliant on their products for our own self identity. The result of this rather than enhancing the actual lives of people enslaves society through their desires. When I look at this I can see no wonder as to why Prince Siddartha aka Buddah decided that desires were the roots of all suffering and that if one could eliminate all selfish desires that one could achieve enlightenment. Now I am no buddah, and I respect the man greatly as one of my heroes for the simplistic life he sought, but I came to a conclusion closer to Ayn Rand’s. (Ayn Rand was the founder of objectivism which is the belief that man is at his best when he is in full pursuit of his desires)

All throughout buddah’s life of soul searching you can see a common theme in the belief that understanding will bring freedom. I would like to apply this same method to desires. I think that desires themselves are not evil, in fact that they are crafted by the almighty (call it God, Tao, a quantum frequency, the only reality, they all work for me) Having said this, it would follow that their is a purpose behind all such desires. Most of the time however we tend to misunderstand our own desires. This misunderstanding is further perpetuated and manipulated by modern marketing, and controlled media, so that the masses of people in these countries will act in such a way as to benefit the few elite that have the funding available to spread this propaganda on a mass scale. By perpetuating misunderstanding our society also perpetuates what I think is the root of most suffering; self deception. We buy unnecessarily big houses and cars to satisfy a craving for the social status that such things represent, but why do we kill ourselves to please society? Do we really want our society to hold us higher, or do we do this so that we can hold ourselves higher? Are these the things we really desired, or have we been bamboozled by the supposed american dream into thinking that this is what it means to have it made? Why should we buy into the idea that happiness can only come from total reliance on the publics every thought and a life style which forces us to become reliant on consumerism, and the oil industry? Who does this benefit? Are you really happy sacrificing money that represents time of your life spent at a job you don’t like while whatever is left of your life rots away out of existence?

Please! Ask yourself what really makes you happy, and on what you really need. Do not count on tomorrow, even the rest of today is not guaranteed to you. Analyze each desire to the fullest, and try to identify what you really want, and what you really need to be happy. So far my own list includes food, water, shelter, something soft to lay on, security, community (not to be confused with people who only value you because of your rolex or hummer), and opportunity. We have made ourselves reliant on others by giving all these things to corporations that benefit more if we spend more. I’m aware that spending more is the current recommendation for keeping the economy alive, but again; ask yourself? How do we measure a successful economy? Is it based on how much we spend, or is it based on how well our needs for health and happiness are actually met?

I plee to you, to seek out that which will make you happy over that which will make others approve. If your happiness is reliant on anyone else’s opinion, than you are chained to that person. I would not say go to the extremes of libertine in which there is no wrong deed, heed your own conscience and don’t mess around with something that sincerely bugs you, but find your own voice. I hope you will learn to identify the reasons behind your desires, so that you can come to see what your desires really are. It has been my experience that most of the time, desires really are much more simple than we make them up to be. Live life purposefully, and do not be afraid to follow your own desires, just make sure you know what those really are first.

Add comment May 22, 2009

Have More Own Less

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There are a number of movements in which for different reasons people are choosing to own less. Sometimes they are guilted in to it by seeing others less fortunate than them. Some of us choose this as a part of religious practice. Some people choose this path as a form of activism against corporate enslavement. Many get rid of stuff to simplify their lives and de-clutter.

Whatever the reason chosen it can still be difficult to know where or how to start. So often we define ourselves by what we own, and getting rid of stuff ends up feeling like getting rid of part of ones self, (or re-inventing ones self). I have been and still am going through this process. Some days I do better than others, but I can honestly say that I own less now than I did a year ago, and I am getting much more out of it.

I want it clear that there is nothing wrong with owning stuff. If you worked hard for something, or somebody else who worked hard wanted you to have whatever it is, it is okay. If you hold on to something because it reminds you of a loved one or a value or improves the quality of your life, it is okay. You do not need anyone’s permission to see value in what you own. I will however ask you to examine what you value. This should be about getting more out of what you own; it should not be about guilt. With that said, lets begin.

Make it a lifestyle.

I do not mean “go ye and move to a buddhist temple” or “go ye and become a health fanatic”. What I do mean, is constantly ask yourself the following questions about everything you own, or are considering buying.

Will I take care of it?

There are things that are always out of place or are always left in cruddy shape. Owning anything that you are not going to have the time/energy to take care of is a hassle. It becomes just another piece of clutter in our already cluttered lives, or another thing to do on our already packed to do list. Taking care of something means making sure that it is well-maintained and out of the way of your everyday life. If the answer to this question is no, do not buy it. If you already own it, sale it on e-bay, give it away, or throw it out. If it is worth owning than it is worth taking care of.

Does it (will it) improve my quality of life?

Owning a car that gets good mileage, a few dishes, or even a quote plaque hanging on the wall all fall under this category. For me, my laptop and a good internet connection allow me to learn new things, and store information in a compact setting. My mp3 player has made it so that I was able to get rid of my bulky CD collection. So those two expensive and often considered luxury items really do make my life easier. If the answer is no sale it, give it, or throw it away. If you were only thinking about buying it you just avoided adding unnecessary clutter to your life, and saved money, congratulations.

Is it worth it?

This applies more to things you are looking at buying than to things you own. When you trade money you are trading a portion of your life. Keep this in mind when you are shopping and do not trade more of your life than is appropriate for what you are trying to obtain.

When was the last time I used it?

This does not apply to tools such as hammers, screwdrivers, means of self-defense or first-aid kits. Though you can ask yourself if those things are stored in the places they are most likely to be found when needed. If it has been in the closet so long that you forgot you had it, than you obviously did not need it that badly. If it has been six months or maybe even a month since you last used it than give it to someone who will use it, sale it, or throw it away. Be brutal when answering whether you will use something or not. If you don’t have a toddler anymore you are not likely to use a toddler chair for the car. If some one in your family wants it for later use than make it their responsibility. If you haven’t played a game for a year, and are not likely to soon sale it.

Do I actually like this?

This one hits me the hardest when it comes to wardrobe. I used to own a lot of clothes that I actually would avoid wearing. I finally realized that if that is how I felt about them I should get rid of them and make a trip to goodwill. I then resolved to only buy clothes that I would wear with pride. If it won’t make my favorite outfit list I won’t buy it. I have found this also applied to movies, video-games and books. I sold what I could and donated the rest.

What would my life be like without it?

I’ve found that more often that there are somethings that I can not just live but thrive without. As an experiment I got rid of TV and went with just DVD’s and some video-games for a few months. Turns out that all the shows that are worth seeing end up online anyways. The time that just keeping my tv off made for me has been not only good for my budget, but I like that I now set my own entertainment schedule, and there are way less advertisements.

Set an occasional throw out day.

I do this about four times a year, you can do it more or less, just set aside a day, where you go over the stuff that you own, and ask all of the questions on this list. (This does not have to be done all at once) Get behind the couch. Hit the closet. Look through the areas that you normally leave alone. Leo Babauta author of Zen Habits wrote a great post listed below on how to create a minimalist home.

In review

Don’t do this for anyone but yourself. Owning stuff is not bad. Just make sure you own only the things that you really want or need to own.

Promised Zen Habits Article

Add comment May 21, 2009


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