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Our views of ourselves in America have gotten completely skewed. One minute we are told that we should buy things for ourselves because we deserve them, the next we get the message that we are not on the same status of others because of what we don’t own. We are sold messages all day of what we are supposed to look like, how we are supposed to dress, and a whole slew of marketing ideas hitting our senses, and changing the ways that we think about the world and ourselves.

Its even gotten to the point where if someone gets complimented we usually have two gut reaction one is to be suspicious that we are being sold something and the other is to attempt to deny it entirely. Neither one is good. So what are we to do about it?

First off, what you own does not define you! What does define you is how you treat others, and what actions you choose to take. Second off, no one is born without some good quality. Do not take it for granted when someone compliments you. The best thing you can do is say thank you, as turning down a compliment is essentially calling someone a liar. Thirdly, people need more compliments! If you like how someone looks let them know. If somebody demonstrates good character let them know. The fact is that they may not know that they have that good thing going for them. Heck we don’t always know when we have something like that going for us!

With women complimenting clothing is fine. Men complimenting other men’s clothes doesn’t always come across how its meant, so it’s usually better to stick with compliments of character.

What about you? Has someone ever made your day with a compliment? What did they say? What would be something that if somebody told you would really make a difference to your day? Do you think you could make someone else’s day in the same way?