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Confidence is a major key to many aspects of our lives. It can be applied to happiness in the way it frees us from many internal struggles. It can help us in our work lives.  A confident person is more likely to be hired than somebody who is not confident. It can help us in our dating lives; confidence is a very attractive feature.

And with so many great things linked to confidence its no wonder so many people try to give off the impression. There are tells though. Here’s how to tell real confidence apart from faked confidence. (more…)

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A little while ago a friend from twitter, @Bpraveenreddy, asked me what the one thing I wish I had learned earlier in my life was. The answer took me about a week to come up with, and it surprised even myself. I wish I had known that if a large group of people have a certain impression of you, than you are doing something to give those people that impression.

For a long time I didn’t think much of going through any effort to make people see me for who I am. After all it wouldn’t change who I really was. I used this as sort of a filter, anyone who would not come to like me was  not worth my time. The problem came however in that I wasn’t demonstrating who I was. I thought that by not worrying about presentation things would be more honest, and in reality I just ended up confusing people. At the same time I was closing myself off from opportunities that could have made a difference in my life. I didn’t realize that there was not really a way to not present something. Even my attitude of not caring what other people thought was a kind of presentation.

So here are the times that how you present yourself really counts.

• It counts when you want people to see you for who you are.
• It counts when you want to be respected.
• It counts when you want to move forward in your career.
• It counts when you are looking to open new opportunities.

So how do you pull it off? (more…)

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It has been said that there comes a time in every child’s life when  they must set childish things aside, but who sets the standard for what is childish and what is not? Every parent who I have asked about the most inspiring thing in their lives I have gotten an answer related to their children.

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.” – Picasso

So maybe its time we re-examine what it means to be childish. Maybe its time to pull our old toys out, or more importantly our old dreams.

So lets play a game. Now every good game needs rules. After all if the kid from the down the street keeps making up super powers every time we’re about to win, the game won’t be much fun. Ready? here we go. (more…)

Post by Justin Dixon Follow me on Twitter Photo courtesy of Tiago Ribeiro

“What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.”~Henry David Thoreau

I have a very clear memory of me looking into the mirror and thinking “what a worm”. I couldn’t put my finger on why that particular day I had decided to feel like a loser,and than it hit me. Even if there a good reason (there wasn’t) feeling like that would not help me do anything about it. It would not help me, it would not change my view, it would not do anything positive. It was a useless way to feel. I decided then that whenever I caught myself feeling like that I would take action before resigning.

Things that make us feel like a loser ares:

• Regret
• Not following through
• Lacking a sense of purpose
• Feeling Powerless
• Being in bad health
• Feeling like you don’t have enough
• Keeping negative relationships
• Trying to control too much

So what can we do about each of these points? (more…)